Spouse left with the kids and the money – what can I do?
This is an all-to-common question, and although I have answered it several times in my “Ask a Lawyer” section, I thought I would answer it again here. The answer to this question depends,...
View ArticleCommon QDRO Questions and Answers
QDRO’s are a source of lots of confusion for clients (as well as many attorneys). Here are some answers to questions I get on a pretty regular basis: What is a QDRO? A QDRO is short for “Qualified...
View Article12 Signs you might be headed for Divorce
This morning I found a list of 12 signs on MSN that indicate you might be headed for divorce… One spouse has acknowledged the problems in the marriage, and the other isn’t doing anything to help fix...
View ArticleCollaborative Divorce is catching on…
For those of you who are still all “doom and gloom” on collaborative divorce, here is yet another article talking about the benefits of the process. If you are thinking about a divorce or separation,...
View ArticleBankruptcy and Divorce – Thoughts to Consider
It’s no secret that one of the biggest things that couples fight about is money. And in these tough economic times, it doesn’t take a whole lot to push a couple over the edge… from a financial...
View ArticleVindication! I love being right…
I rarely use my blog forum to gloat about the outcome of a divorce case, but today I just have to. Here is a quick summary of how I met this client and the information they gave me when they initially...
View ArticleBankruptcy and Divorce… When to file?
One of the number one reasons that people divorce is because of financial problems. And financial problems, all too often, can lead to bankruptcy. So if you are considering filing for bankruptcy, the...
View ArticleWhy a divorce assessment is such a great idea
Since 2005, when I first began offering my divorce assessment, I’ve received lots of positive feedback from those that have taken advantage of this valuable resource – and it always makes me feel good,...
View ArticleA Sincere Apology… I’ve been lazy
I feel the need to send an apology to my readers and come clean. I’ve been lazy. I just checked my website/blog and realized that I haven’t posted since last July. That’s unacceptable and just...
View ArticleWhat are your biggest fears about getting a divorce?
Fear is a big motivator for lots of people, but it can also drive people to inaction. I recently came a TED talk by author Karen Thompson Walker which discusses how fear is like a story, and can help...
View ArticleShould I hire a lawyer for my divorce?
I’ve been noticing a trend lately in the divorce realm. Although my practice is based in Cary, North Carolina, I strongly suspect that this trend is not unique to my family law practice. More and...
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Be careful when and how you tell your spouse that you are leaving them
For some people, one of the hardest parts of divorce is telling your spouse that the marriage is over. I get people asking me about this all the time – how should they do it, when should they do it, is...
View Article5 things to do before you start the process of getting a divorce
No bones about it, getting a divorce is a big deal. A really big deal. It’s one of those traumatic life events that’s right up there with death of a loved one, contracting a terminal disease, loss of...
View ArticleWe have a simple, uncontested divorce – do I really need a lawyer?
Yes. No. Maybe. To be honest, I’m not really sure. What I do know is that lots of people make the mistake of waiting too long to call a lawyer – like when things have gone bad and there is nothing...
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In complex equitable distribution cases, who wins?
My answer is going to surprise you – it’s not necessarily who you would think. Here are some possible answers: The person represented by the better lawyer? (whatever that means) The person who spends...
View ArticleWhat should I bring to my Divorce Assessment?
Everytime I talk to a potential new divorce client on the phone I get asked about what the client needs to do to prepare for their meeting with me. My answer for almost ten years has been pretty much...
View ArticleNC Divorce Papers – Who should file first?
The question of who should “file” NC divorce papers first depends in large part on your unique personal situation and what is meant by “filing” legal paperwork. In North Carolina, when we refer to...
View ArticleWhat it really means to get divorced
Having practiced family law (i.e. divorcing people) as long as I have, sometimes it gets easy to forget that my clients are real people with real lives and real emotions. I think that is dangerous....
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Divorce can be a time to reinvent yourself
Maybe you are going through a divorce right now, or maybe you are just thinking about it. There are lots of things about divorce that really stink. When looked at in comparison to life’s major...
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Should you get divorced before the end of 2013?
If you are just starting to think about getting divorced, and you live North Carolina, then you are pretty much out of luck to get divorced in 2013, or 2014 either for that matter. The process to get...
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